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31/05/2023

Be gentle with your Mother..
There are times that a quick, short answer jumps out of your mouth. Full of sharp edges that draw blood. And you look away so you don’t need to see the pain you know you caused.
Half of what she does, you don’t understand. The things she allows leave you cold and irritate you.
One moment you want to fold her in your arms, the next you wish you could just shake her a bit.
One day it will all make sense to you.
The things she never told you about, are the very things that hollowed out her insides and then built her up again, so she can carry more and more where no-one can see the weight. Those things that sometimes break her where you can actually see it, even though you prefer not to.
Her eyes notice everything, yet she keeps so much to herself. She steps back and offers her hope for the sake of her child’s happiness. The gratitude she deserves for doing that is far and few between, yet her flame of gratitude reaches close to the Heavens.
Should you be blessed enough to still have her breathing the air of this earth, it’s time you start digging in your gratitude-archives and find the warmth in your heart, the forgiveness in your voice and the same amazement you had as a toddler for her. I beg of you to please, today and every day, be gentle with your Mother.
Because the day will come that her morning greeting will no longer be.
Her words “I love you my child” will no longer be.
Her voice will no longer be heard.
All that will be left are memories..
Be gentle with your Mother.
With love and a hug,
Luzette

14/05/2023

16/03/2023

First become alone.
First start enjoying yourself.
First love yourself.

First become so authentically happy that if nobody comes it doesn't matter;
you are full,
overflowing.

If nobody knocks at your door it is perfectly okay.
YOU are not missing.

You are not waiting for somebody to come and knock at the door.
You are at home.

If somebody comes,
good,
beautiful.

If nobody comes,
that too is beautiful and good.

- Osho
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Osho is known for his revolutionary contribution to the science of inner transformation

22/02/2023

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I remember sitting in a bar once and watching a woman dancing. She was so full of joy and life that I found it hard to take my eyes off her. She was mesmerising.

But I didn't tell her.

I remember being in the supermarket one day and seeing a woman who had matched her eye make up to the colours in her headscarf. Her eyes shone when she smiled and she looked beautiful.

But I didn't tell her.

I remember watching a fellow mum on the school run years ago. She had a toddler who kept stumbling, stopping to pick things up and pausing to point things out. The mum was so encouraging, patient and calm with her toddler, despite being in a rush herself. I remember thinking what a wonderful parent she was.

But I didn't tell her.

And how often have you probably been that person? Not the one noticing and saying nothing - but the one being noticed.

The one exuding calm, beauty and joy to such an extent that people will remember you years later as the person in the bar or the woman in the supermarket or the mum on the school run.

The one who was mesmerising. Beautiful. Wonderful.

And yet you'll never know because they never told you.

But they noticed you. I promise.

*****

13/02/2023

I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:

I’m not screwing around. It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go.

Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever.

Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.'

~Brené Brown

💕💕💕

Breathe it in

11/02/2023

20 things that women should stop wearing after the age of 30:

1-20: The weight of other people’s expectations and judgements.

- Maura Quint

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31/12/2022

No, 2023 won’t be the best year yet.
Nor will it be the worst.
You see, a year is a mosaic of absolutely everything.
Joy, fear, heartache, loss, beauty, pain, love.
Failure, learning, friendship, misery, exhilaration.
Each day, each moment even, is a tiny shard of glass in this beautiful, confusing creation.
2023 will be another mosaic to add to your wall of art.
A wall that shows the life, you are continuously gifted.
A wall that shows you are human.
A wall of survival.
I wish you many broken pieces of glass this year, my friends.
Because this is living.
And before you march on in to another year of ‘everything’, pause to look back, at the work you have created thus far.
It is quite something.
You are quite something.
Now onwards we go, my friends.
Onwards we go.

Donna Ashworth
‘Life’

24/12/2022

Merry Christmas and take care to all at what can be a wonderful or woeful time of year depending on circumstances. Be kind, reach out to both give and ask for support. Stay safe.

19/12/2022

Have we lost sight of the beauty of an aging woman?
She is powerful beyond measure;
she screams strength,
wisdom and knowledge.

She is a role model,
she has many stories to tell.
She shines where she stands.
She is outrageous,
she is wild,
but most importantly she is free from the demands that society puts on her.

She is confident;
she believes in herself,
she lives her life by her own set of rules.

She finally becomes comfortable and settles into her life.
She gets this time to experience things that she felt that she never could before,
because now the rules have changed.

Her life is written in the lines on her face,
the grey in her hair,
and the age on her hands.
The shape of her body changes,
but it doesn't mean that it cannot be loved.

Why do we not look up to these women?

We can learn from them and be inspired by them,
and understand that age only strengthens beauty.

It’s time to praise these women for what they have been through;
they have survived life ...
They are the brightest shining lights leaving their mark,
with grace.

So here’s to the older woman,
may she continue to shine.

- Mary Costanza

29/11/2022

Never apologise for sensitivity:

I used to dislike being sensitive.
I thought it made me weak.
But take away that single trait,
and you take away the very essence of who I am.

You take away my conscience,
my ability to empathize,
my intuition,
my creativity,
my deep appreciation for the little things,
my vivid inner life,
my deep awareness of others’ pain,
and my passion for it all ...

- Caitlin Japa

01/11/2022

"Good girl" conditioning is messaging we receive in childhood to be agreeable, polite, and nice.

It looks like ...

Many girls are told (directly or indirectly) to never show our anger, to allow people to violate our boundaries, and to hide our own needs to please others.

Young girls who take on these traits are rewarded in families and within society.

They're often seen as "mature for their age." Their worth comes from sacrificing their own needs to tend to the needs of others.

Being a "good girl" comes at a high price though because we aren't able to say we're uncomfortable, tell someone 'no' (set a boundary), or express how we truly feel.

From a young age, girls start to go into a freeze or fawn trauma response because of this.

For example, as a young girl you feel uncomfortable around your uncle. He drinks a lot and is loud. Your intuition tells you to avoid him.

Your (well-meaning) mother senses your discomfort.

Rather than helping to guide you through your discomfort, to validate you, and to teach you how to honor your own boundaries: she tells you that you have to give him a hug.

It's polite. And, you can't "look rude".

The messaging is clear. External appearance is more important than internal feelings. No good girl can appear rude.

As she hugs him, her body goes into freeze. Slowly, she learns to disconnect from her emotions to appease those around her.

As these situations occur throughout childhood, the good girl comes to believe that her role in a social setting is to be liked.

This leads to hypervigilance. A focus on
what people think of her, how she appears, and if she's being well received.

When she isn't in a freeze (dissociated) state, she's in fawn: appeasing, going along with, or avoiding conflict.

Good girls don't learn important relational skills like voicing their needs, placing boundaries, or conflict resolution.

Eventually, she's angry.
Very angry.
But, she's been taught to fear her anger. Or, to believe it means something is wrong with her.

Until she awakens to the truth. Her anger is valid and her role in life isn't to be liked, it's to be authentic.

Source: .holistic.psychologist
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