11/06/2026
I wonder where you learned that your needs were less important than everyone else’s?
Many women I work with can identify the needs, emotions and responsibilities of everyone around them, yet struggle to recognise when they themselves need support.
Not because they lack insight. But because somewhere along the way, being capable became safer than being cared for.
Being responsible became more familiar than asking for help.
Being the one who holds it together became part of your identity.
Over time, self sacrifice can stop feeling like a choice and start feeling like you’re trapped and stuck.
The challenge is that burnout rarely arrives overnight. It often emerges gradually through years of overriding your own needs, minimising your own needs and convincing yourself that you’ll rest once everything is done… but that moment never comes.
The work is learning you are deserving of the same care, compassion and consideration you offer so freely to others 🤎
A question worth sitting with:
What would change if you believed your needs mattered before you reached breaking point? 💭
