Anna Matvienko

21/09/2024

This week I had a really great session, dedicated to feedback. A couple of afterthoughts and two essential questions to ask before giving it as takeouts:

1. Will this feedback help an individual or team to thrive? Sometimes, a feedback giver wants to change a person’s behavior to make themselves feel more comfortable. This is a very fair need, but it is not the point of the feedback. Good feedback aims to make a feedback receiver (not a feedback giver) or a team more successful.

2. What does this feedback tell me about myself? It is incredible how many things we can learn from the answer. Those questions might also reveal our self-interests and insecurities. If you give feedback from this place, you play in the quadrant of “Manipulative insincerity.” It will be more honest to request feedback instead of giving it, transparently bringing your discomfort to the team, and asking for help.

In other words, give feedback if you want to do something truly beneficial for a person or team. Vice versa, ask for feedback, help, or input to ensure you have what you want.

Example. There is a person on the team who speaks up a lot. Based on the above couple of scenarios, feedback givers can face
- A person speaks up a lot, so not all team members have the opportunity to share their opinions. As a result, the team has a one-sided view of the situation, there is no flow of ideas, and team members feel frustrated from being unheard. It would be great to have feedback that will enable the person to give space to others, listen, and learn from the group and people’s strengths. It will benefit all, business included.
- A person who speaks up a lot triggers a potential feedback giver because he is not that outspoken and struggles to find space in a conversation. In this case, feedback to the person does not make sense. The person brings value, has an opinion, and can convey it. If you want the person to talk less, no one will benefit, except maybe you will have more opportunities to speak. What makes sense is learning from this person, being transparent about difficulties, and asking for help.

03/12/2022

Very often limitations that we have are creations of our minds. And very often it is because it does not want to go beyond its comfort zone or overcome fears.
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If we knew that the limit we have on our mind is our growth zone
👉How would we face it?
👉What could we learn from it?
👉Whom could we become if we went through those learnings?

11/09/2022

Stillness, and not Doing can be a source of our greatest actions

08/09/2022

Ambivalence is when you can not decide what to do or make a choice. It is a state of mind, that constantly wonders and thinks, but without any satisfactory outcome.
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Ask yourself
👉 what do I miss by not deciding/choosing?
👉 what would I do, whom would I be if I finally could decide/choose?
👉 what If there is no wrong answer?
👉 if I could decide, what would I do instead of constant tries to find a solution?
👉 what are the consequences of not deciding/making a choice

03/07/2022

When managing your time it is important to focus on your goals and secure that you invest enough energy and time resources.
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To make it possible it might be worth freeing up space for your goals and reducing what is not helpful.
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Have a look into how you can minimize
👉 multitasking. It is when a few tasks need your attention. This is something that steals your time at the end of the day.
👉 time suckers. Social media, TV series, whatever dies not add value and takes a lot of time
👉 distractors. Mails, messages, etc. Give yourself time to focus and you will check all the incoming messages as soon as you will finish

26/06/2022

If you want to slow down the world, calm down your mind first, and the world will follow

25/06/2022

The country and culture you moved to is different from your native place, country you lived before and more probably from your expectations.
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Embrace it, be curious, open yourself to exploration and new experiences.

10/06/2022

Be mindful of the environment you are in. Does it serve you?

https://www.facebook.com/100000868821952/posts/5243752465663662/?d=n

A violinist played for 45 minutes in a New York subway. A handful of people stopped, a couple clapped, and the violinist managed to raise about $30 in tips.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. In that subway, Joshua played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars.

Two days before he played in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston and the seats averaged about $100.

The experiment proved that the extraordinary in an ordinary environment does not shine and is so often overlooked and undervalued.

There are brilliantly talented people everywhere who aren’t receiving the recognition and reward they deserve. But once they arm themselves with value and confidence and remove themselves from an environment that isn’t serving them, they thrive and grow.

Your gut is telling you something. Listen to it if it’s telling you that where you are isn’t enough!

Go where you are appreciated and valued.
Know Your Worth.

06/06/2022

Very often your, not right or wrong, but your choice is easy. It is crystal clear, it feels like there is only one opportunity and this the one. If there are doubts, more probably it is not the choice, or not uour choice.

27/05/2022

A bit of morning inspirational reads

22/05/2022

When stuck, the first question is worth to ask is
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WHAT IS NOT SERVING ME AND MAKES ME FEEL LIKE THAT?
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That will be the first point, that will help to unravel the tangle

03/04/2022

In times of UNCERTAINTY and ANXIETY, we need to remember to focus on what is in our control at the moment. We rarely control other people or external factors, but we can control our thoughts 🙏 Wish you positive thoughts this Sunday 😁