05/13/2019
I had just had our fourth baby. I was at my 6 week checkup when I asked for a referral to have my tubes tied. I was 28 and had 4 kids. The doctor told me no. I was too young. “What if you want kids later on?”
Um. I’m done. “But what if you divorce and want a baby with your new partner?”
Ummmm. I’m 28 with 4 kids- I’M DONE. “Sorry, I just can’t in good conscious let you make such an irrational decision when you are so young.” I remember going home and telling my husband, “that was the strangest appointment I’ve ever been too. He told me I wasn’t able to decide when I was finished having babies?!” I shook it off, not realising the IMPACT that would have on me a mere 20 months later.
Imagine, being in the mentality that you are finished having children, you just attempted to have your tubes tied to be denied, then to find out your pregnant.
Choice 👏🏼 fu***ng 👏🏼 matters 👏🏼.
Women’s 👏🏼 rights 👏🏼 matter 👏🏼
Do you see the irony here? You can’t have your tubes tied. You can’t have an abortion. You can’t you can’t you can’t you can’t....my choice to have a baby matters. My choice to an abortion matters. My choice to have my tubes tied matters. My choice to give up my baby for adoption matters. My choice to use my body as a sacred vessel for surrogacy matters. My choice is also YOUR choice. When one is removed they all are removed.
So, for all the women who are told they are under 30 and unable to have a tubal ligation, then find themselves pregnant and unable to have a legal abortion- I see you.
To all the women who enjoy s*x and get pregnant and are unable to have a legal abortion- I see you too.
To the 16 year old girl who had s*x ONE TIME without a condom and got pregnant and doesn’t have access to a legal abortion- I see you too babe.
Choice. Humans rights. Birth rights.
Consent. Respect. It all matters.
